Healing Isn’t What You Think
Often when people seek support whether it’s from a therapist, facilitator, or counsellor,it’s because something within feels heavy, unresolved, or painful. There’s a desire to heal, to feel better emotionally or physically from what’s been carried from the past.
But healing is not what we’ve often been led to believe.
As a somatic therapist, my approach is very different. I don’t offer a quick fix. There’s no magic cure, no promise to remove pain or erase experiences. That’s not how true healing works.
“Instead, we allow a process to unfold gently and patiently where we build our window of tolerance to sit with discomfort, to witness ourselves, and to hold space for the body.”
We work with the whole terrain of the body, not just the mind. Our body is intelligent, always communicating with us. It lets us know when we’re safe and when we’re not. So much of what we carry isn’t just mental or emotional it’s physical, stored energetically in the tissues and nervous system as trapped emotion. What we do in this work is not remove, but release what no longer serves. We can't erase an event, but we can shift the way we see it. We can come to understand it differently, with more compassion, discernment, and perspective. That shift alone can release so much of what we’ve held onto for years sometimes decades.
After a Root Cause Therapy (RCT) session, it’s not uncommon for clients to wonder: “Should I feel different now?” And sometimes, you might not at least not immediately. Because the session is just the beginning.
The real healing happens in the integration.
“Integration is where our conscious awareness begins to expand. Suddenly, we’re seeing our world with new eyes. The same patterns that played out in the background now become visible.”
The body may go through a detox, a kind of emotional purge. That might feel like unease or tiredness at first. But just like a physical cleanse, the storm passes. And after that, we begin to notice the subtle changes.
That’s what I love most about this work, it’s not about trying to stack new habits or force change.
The changes have already begun, deep within the subconscious. And they reveal themselves in the most organic ways. You might not even realise until later… when you look back and say, “That was different.”
It’s like you finally found the pause button.
That’s why on my website, I use the image of an old tape deck to explain Root Cause Therapy. There's forward. There’s rewind. But for many of us, what’s been missing is the pause. When we access the subconscious, we begin to see the space between stimulus and response. We can sit with our emotion. Reflect. Discern. And make a choice not a reaction.
That’s how cycles are broken.
For me, healing is no longer about controlling, suppressing, denying, or hiding. It’s about allowing.
“Allowing ourselves to feel. To sit. To be with what is. When we stop contracting and begin to allow, we open the door to true, organic processing and that changes everything.”
I don’t always love using the word healing. It can feel too neat, too final. The truth is, life continues. Challenges come. Feelings rise.
Healing isn’t a destination. It’s a journey. A becoming.
So what does it really mean to heal?
It means allowing ourselves the space to become well again,not by removing the past, but by equipping ourselves with tools to navigate the present. It’s about maintaining health and wellbeing not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too.
It’s subtle. It’s profound. And it’s always unfolding.
If this speaks to you, I invite you to explore our 'Self Awareness’ package created to support you in finding safety, releasing what no longer serves, and reconnecting with your whole self. Or, if you're not quite ready, you might like to read our blog 'Learning to Be Okay with Not Being Okay' a gentle reminder that healing begins with permission to be where you are.
